and Devori have always excelled at the Mida of gratitude. What parent
ever wants to feel like a shlepper? Sometimes its hard not to for all we
do for our children. But when your children acknowledge what you do for
them, demonstrate appreciation, and even show sensitivity to your
needs, that's really good. Gratitude excels when self importance is low.
The girls therefore were/are attentive to others needs.
In honor of
their greatness and for an aliyah of Shoshie's neshama, I want to make
my own personal kabbala of benching (Bircas Hamazone) (grace after the
meal) with a bencher (looking inside and reading it as opposed to doing
it by heart) when I eat a meal. (Bli Neder-without a vow).
But let's take this one step further. What does
this really mean? I want to slow down and not rush out after finishing a
meal, take the time to thank the Almighty for the food/meal and by
doing that I hopefully will become more grateful.