Of course the following could be reading into the events the occurred
before Shoshie's petira but there were a few things that Denise and I
find as odd.
It seemed to us that Shoshie (and Divine providence) was on a
grand mission to touch the people in her/our lives before her Petira.
Whether it was a phone call, a gift, a visit or something she did or
encouraged, her neshama seemed to us to know that it was closing up
business here on earth.
Inexplicably Shoshie started developing
many and many pictures both of her and her friends and those family
pictures that often lay dormant in your cell phone. Instagram became a
favorite past time with her sill looking kissing poses that are so dear
to us now. Even more importantly, she bothered, begged and encouraged us
to have someone take family pictures with all 8 of us for the first
time since early Milwaukee days 7 years ago. Thanks to her, an erev
Shabbos or two before her petira Theo, a nice neighbor we have took
pictures of all of us together. It was hard to get 8 Sterns all together
at once, to shut up, stand still and not make any ridiculous faces at
the moment the pictures were shot - this itself should added to Jewish
lore along side of the splitting of the red sea. Shoshie made us do it.
We knew that Shoshie had made a collage (of pictures of course) way in
advance of Devori's June birthday- of course we didn't think anything
about it. Who makes their present for their loving sister 2 1/2 months
in advance. That in it of itself is interesting. What is even more
interesting, as Denise and I went to look for it after her petira we
couldn't find it. Why? She already had given it to Devori.
Amazingly, my brother Ken, wife Josie and 13 year old Isabel (Izzy) came
to South beach just week or two before Shoshie's petira. My niece
Gabby all grown up with baby and husband had been down at the same time.
I took the girls, the little ones too, Yossi was in from Yeshiva and we
all met together at the hotel. To have us all together in the same
place at the same time just doesnt happen -ever. I mean we are totally
land-locked here living in South Florida- we can't afford to fly as a
family and because of many reasons, driving seems to be off limits. But
ehre we were, all together long enough to have pictures of the all the
girls. Wow! Devori, Shoshie, Ellie, Izzy, Gabby and Kaila (the baby) all
beautiful in one picture. We are so grateful.
Shoshie saw my
brother too on that day, spoke to my sister and mother just before that,
saw Uncle Adam (my best friend of 48 years) who was down visiting from
Maryland-got to spend time in total hilarity listening to Adam and our
incredible friend "Selly" as explored Adam's one sided relationship of
the past. (Shabbos meal too with them). Shoshie's last Shabbos in Boca
was time spent with Stephanie who has been anchor, friend for us here,
she spent much time with Shoshie. That last Shabbos as well as hundreds
since we have been here was spent with our best friends down here
Debbie, Terry and their son Addison. The Golden's are like real Aunt's
Uncles and cousins to Shoshie. And it was never a long time ( a week at
most) for Shoshie to spend time with our long time, close, close friend
Shelley Schneer who is thoroughly involved in our lives or our new found
friend who spent so much time out of our home with Shoshie, Rosie
Sherman. Shoshie was of course with her best friend Basie Lyons all the
time until the end and her favorite Boca families the Lyons and the
Bermans.And lastly for now, Shoshie had just spoken with my mother, my
sister on the phone, probably made up Ellie's hair, took the kids to
Shul, did groups at Rabbi Gibber's Shul, went on walks with Yossi, her
brother after the Pesach Seders.
There is probably more, but
already you can see the whirlwind of activity and touches within the
last 2 weeks of her life. I so apologize if I left someone or something
It appears to me that Shoshie's neshama knew and was
directing her to once again touch a soul of a friend, cousin, family
member - with a smile, a laugh, a fun activity, she was so in the moment
-a joy to be with a total joy to have Shoshie as our daughter.
This is all not including the precious last Shabbos in Miami where she
spent time with her whole other side of her life that I was not as
familiar with. At some point in time those families and friends will
write about Shoshie's last Shabbos and day.
This post wasn't
anything like my prior posts but one that of course was important for me
to notice and write. Hopefully later today or tomorrow I will post
again something more substantial.